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I’m at a loss!!

I got a text this week from a friend that asked me “why when he really pours it on” he is faced with even more challenges and obstacles?

Have you ever noticed when you are right on the verge of making a great shift away from a old pattern or habit the negative voices inside your head can seem to get louder? What is happening is that your old habit is holding on for dear life. You see, your subconscious mind likes to stay in familiar patterns, even if they no longer serve your greater good. Instead of falling into the trap of letting down, pause take a deep breath. Just let go, and know this is part of the advancement into your desired outcomes.

See these challenges as a gift to move through with your newly found habits and improved patterns. The MVPs I have worked with in sports, always advance during a perceived setback or obstacle. They do this because we focus on the positives rather than the negatives. I didn’t do this when I was playing professional tennis, so a loss would take me down rather than provide me with new insight to build upon. Later on after I retired professionally, I incorporated these principles I now coach, and became #1 in my age group while playing in the seniors divisions.

All in all, I have become better in all aspects of my life because of the challenging experiences I have gone through. So the next time you are faced with a challenge, look for the opportunity within that challenge. Soon enough you will look back and say, WOW even though at the time I didn’t want this obstacle, by overcoming it I became better and achieved more.

You have a choice whether to “react to your conditions” or “create your conditions.”

So the next time you are at a loss, find yourself in the question of “how can I find the good in this?” The answer could show up instantly or might take some time. As long as you stay in the question, the answer will appear. Albert Einstein said, “If I had an hour to solve a problem and my very life depended on the solution, I would spend the first 55 minutes determining the proper question to ask, for once I know the proper question, I could solve the problem in less than five minutes.”